Focus on what you can control…

Ever find yourself lying awake at night thinking about work or family? Or being easily distracted during the day whilst trying to complete a task?  Working so hard to get through your “to-do” list but not actually accomplishing anything?

Well, the good news is you’re not alone and there is a solution!

Whether you’re a worrier, a control freak or an over thinker, learning how to focus on what you can control, rather than what you can’t will reduce stress…and give you the energy you need to concentrate what matters most to you.

Making the choice to alter your mindset and focus on what you can control will only benefit your health, relationships, job performance and ability to enjoy life.  In fact, even just making the decision to apply this mantra can bring a feeling of calm and clearer thought.

Once you’ve made the decision to change your focus, here are some tips that can be applied to most situations and keep you on the pathway to leading a more stress-free, calmer and (hopefully!) happier life.

1.  Determine what you can control

Assess your problem or situation and work out (even write down if its helpful) what you can influence or change or provide to get the desired outcome.

For example, you worry about what would happen to your business if you were no longer in the picture.  A very real stress for many business owners, but one whereby plans can be put in place to help ensure the business keeps running effectively.

By documenting your business plan, succession plan and engaging the right advisers you can do everything in your power to ensure the business is in safe hands without you at the helm.

2.  Accept uncertainty

Whether you’re starting your own business or thinking about retiring, not all of the journey will be set in place before you start.  And that’s ok!  If you keep your end goal in mind and be prepared to accept any hiccups along the way, the feeling of being out of control will be reduced.

3.  Look for the positives

Even when a decision or plan doesn’t go your way, try to find a positive that will help you either accept the situation or help change your direction if needed. Choose not to let the set back effect your desire to achieve your end goal.

4.  Plan for when the going gets tough

Develop strategies for when you are starting to think beyond what you can control or if something goes wrong.  There are several techniques to re-focus the mind, the trick will be picking the most effective for you!

5.  Breathe!

Try to determine exactly how stressful your situation is and how stressful it needs to be.  Some things in life do produce a lot of worry and angst, whereas others don’t need to be as overwhelming if dealt with logically and rationally.  Either way, take the time to breathe, reflect and re-evaluate as often as you need.